The saying goes “the calm before the storm.” But I find that “the storm before the calm” more accurately describes life. A storm where you sometimes feel like there’s no end in sight. But eventually, the dust settles, and you can finally see clearly where you are (oftentimes a paradise that you never even knew existed).
Many people that I know are experiencing the storm (myself included)—an important, albeit uncomfortable part of the process that’s necessary for us to grow and evolve. Why is it important? Because it’s through this step that we purge anything that no longer serves us so that we can make room for expansion.
I like to equate it to cleaning my room. When I clean my room, at first it gets messier. I take things out of drawers, pile things in the middle, sort, remove things that I no longer want or need (such as that shirt that I haven’t worn since the 6th grade), and then sort again before putting everything in its proper place. My room needs to get messy before it can get clean.
The same thing applies to our life. It needs to get messy so that we can purge and let go of things that no longer serve us before we can come to a more spacious place. We might be letting go of people, beliefs, or relationships that at one point were really important in our lives. But now, we are at a place to let go and up-level.
For me personally, I’ve been moving through a lot of limiting beliefs in terms of my work. I have imposter syndrome. That I’m not good enough. That I can’t do it. That people are going to judge me and don’t want anything that I offer. That it’s safer for me to hide, etc.
These beliefs are keeping me small, and I want to get rid of them. And how do I do that? I lean into them. I give these doubts and fears a voice. I tune into where in my body these beliefs are stored, and I listen. And through listening, through giving it a voice, these doubts and fears automatically transmute themselves.
I’m at the cusp of this transformation. Where these beliefs that once overpowered me are not ringing true for me anymore. I’m at a point where I’m sick and tired of these doubts. Because I know both in my head and in my body that I am good enough. That I am here to transform people’s lives (I have and will continue to do so). That I can and have been doing it! I’m letting that integrate into my body.
So, my question to you is, is there an area in your life where you’re experiencing the storm? Where you’re feeling discomfort, and it’s a bit messy? Where you feel like the storm is never ending and wonder if there’s ever an end to it?
Well, I’ll let you know that your calm is coming. It’s on its way. And you can help this transition become smoother by staying curious. Instead of wanting that storm to just go away, how can you lean into it? How can you embrace it and learn from this purge that you’re experiencing?
As always, I would love to hear your reflections.
Sending love,
Alyssa